my love language is chocolate

took a shameless selfie yesterday...  thanks to a good hair day, and dirty front camera darker

I also retook the Love Language Profile  to see if it had changed. I don't remember that last time I took it. It was several years ago, for sure. In any case it hasn't changed too much except for a few things.  I remember Quality Time was at the top and the last time I took it, I know "Receiving gifts" was low but it wasn't at zero. I think over the years, I've found gift giving to mean less. I LOVE getting flowers (what girl doesn't) and I really love when someone gives me a gift they know I need as apposed to jewelry, clothes, etc.  -- the other day someone bought me a laptop stand. Romantic right?  haha!! I was having really bad neck pain from the constant strain in my neck. It's things like that I love receiving.

Quality Time is also extremely important to me. I love spending time with people I love. I'm an introvert with some extroverted tendencies but for the most part, spending time one on one or in small groups is where I love to be. If I'm obligated to attend a large event I immediately go through 3 emotions; At first it's fright. I think about all the people I'm going to have to see and smile at and all the superficial conversation I'll have to participate in. Then the second emotion is Flakiness- I'll think about backing out, making an excuse not to go. The Final emotion is "fuck it" I put on my big girl panties and 90% of the time really enjoy myself. -- So you could say, I'm a bit of a drama queen but I honestly can't help it. Being around lots of people not only scares me, it EXHAUSTS me.

Act of Service - pretty simple. If you do something for me and you do it with enthusiasm ... thats the best. If you're going to moan and complain, don't bother, I'd rather do it myself. I'm guilty of doing this with family but I have really come along way not doing things for other people if I don't want to. I know if I do, I'll only regret it and feel resentment about it later. If You want ME to do something for YOU, Ask me directly, sans guilt, and give me a due date. I'm a Libra and I'll put it off until I'm good and ready.

Physical Touch - I love hugs. Giving and receiving. I love holding hands, and the european, kiss. kiss,  on the cheek. As far as needing to constantly be touching. no. I need my space. Public display of affection depends on what country we're in. Postcoital  cuddles can only last about 5-10 minutes. Then its, "get off me and let me sleep" ... you can touch my feet with your feet though. I'm cool with that.

My #1 was Word of Affirmation - Yes. Tell me i am  loved, appreciated, and needed. I eat that shit up.  We'll hang out, you'll enthusiastically plant me some basil,  kiss me on the cheek and tell me I'm pretty.

xoxo

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